I often have a blog post ringing my head when it comes to my kids. You know the one about how they grow so fast, and washing their hair (Check it out Here) How its all over in the blink of an eye, and they are grown. I think to myself about how my own father must feel with the fact that I just turned 29 for the 4th time (I am 32), and that he has two granddaughters. Or the fact that my brother's are about to turn 27 (they are twins). how does this all happen????
How does the time fly by so damn fast. One could say with that cliche, that "time flys when your having fun", or "life is what happens when you are busy making plans".
Truth of the matter is, is that none of us are gonna come out of this life alive. Not one of us! Each and everyone of us will pass on one day, we hope later, and we hope we get to do all the things on our bucket list. Truth be told that may not happen for all of us. I read countless motivational articles on the internet, and I've read one about asking the elderly what they regret most in their lives. NO matter which article you read the message is the same, they regret not spending more time with family and loved ones, or truly enjoying the things in life that matter.
In my own life I have seen life been stripped from families that leave a giant hole, where people are constantly wishing for one more day, one more hug, one more kiss. The pain that remains in the way we all take this life for granted thinking that we will have one more day. BUT we are humans, and we are reinforced by the fact that each day we do wake up and start over, which is why we live this way. WE can however try to be more mindful, and present and live in the NOW. Which is something I definitely try to do.
Anyway my point is that when it comes to my family and my life I TRY my hardest to live a life full with love and memories, and creating traditions and things to enjoy. When my spirited 3.5 year old is driving me nuts, I remind myself this is a phase. Or when she wakes up at 2am wanting to come into my bedroom, I remind myself that for whatever the reason is she needs me at this moment in time (and she won't be doing this when she is in college, well at least I hope). I'm constantly looking at my almost 5 month old baby trying to take in her ever changing facial features, and what she's learning each day, as I know that in a few years from now she will probably look entirely different from what she does now. I try to be present in their lives, as much as they are present in mine. To our children we are all they have, we are their life. Sure they may go to school, or have a few friendships and such, but they don't really start building real relationships until they are in grade school, perhaps even middle school. Even then though, we are still the main focus in their lives. Sure we have other things in our lives, work, jobs, relationships, bills and so on, but our kids have just us!! So I try to remember how important it is to be present in their lives, because we are the supporting actor/actress and they are the stars in their story. We hope that they grow up to become good and well adjusted adults in this world, navigating society with ease and grace, but it starts with us. How do we do this you ask, it's simple we give them the best gift of all that we can give. Something so special, no one else can give them. WE give them our love, our attention, but most importantly our TIME.
So when life gave me an extra day on 2/29 and I woke up at 6am to my alarm clock and looked over and both my babies were cuddled so peacefully in my bed, I decided my workout could wait until later, my coffee could wait, and everything else I had to do that day could WAIT! I was being presented with a gift of an extra day in the year, a day to cuddle my girls and snuggle them. I was given the gift of more TIME, so I took advantage. They may not remember it 10, 15 or 20 years from now, hell they probably won't even remember it by the end of the week. However, I surely will because years from now, days like this will most likely be nonexistent, and when I want to cuddle and snuggle with them, they either won't want to, or won't even be here.
How does the time fly by so damn fast. One could say with that cliche, that "time flys when your having fun", or "life is what happens when you are busy making plans".
Truth of the matter is, is that none of us are gonna come out of this life alive. Not one of us! Each and everyone of us will pass on one day, we hope later, and we hope we get to do all the things on our bucket list. Truth be told that may not happen for all of us. I read countless motivational articles on the internet, and I've read one about asking the elderly what they regret most in their lives. NO matter which article you read the message is the same, they regret not spending more time with family and loved ones, or truly enjoying the things in life that matter.
In my own life I have seen life been stripped from families that leave a giant hole, where people are constantly wishing for one more day, one more hug, one more kiss. The pain that remains in the way we all take this life for granted thinking that we will have one more day. BUT we are humans, and we are reinforced by the fact that each day we do wake up and start over, which is why we live this way. WE can however try to be more mindful, and present and live in the NOW. Which is something I definitely try to do.
Anyway my point is that when it comes to my family and my life I TRY my hardest to live a life full with love and memories, and creating traditions and things to enjoy. When my spirited 3.5 year old is driving me nuts, I remind myself this is a phase. Or when she wakes up at 2am wanting to come into my bedroom, I remind myself that for whatever the reason is she needs me at this moment in time (and she won't be doing this when she is in college, well at least I hope). I'm constantly looking at my almost 5 month old baby trying to take in her ever changing facial features, and what she's learning each day, as I know that in a few years from now she will probably look entirely different from what she does now. I try to be present in their lives, as much as they are present in mine. To our children we are all they have, we are their life. Sure they may go to school, or have a few friendships and such, but they don't really start building real relationships until they are in grade school, perhaps even middle school. Even then though, we are still the main focus in their lives. Sure we have other things in our lives, work, jobs, relationships, bills and so on, but our kids have just us!! So I try to remember how important it is to be present in their lives, because we are the supporting actor/actress and they are the stars in their story. We hope that they grow up to become good and well adjusted adults in this world, navigating society with ease and grace, but it starts with us. How do we do this you ask, it's simple we give them the best gift of all that we can give. Something so special, no one else can give them. WE give them our love, our attention, but most importantly our TIME.
So when life gave me an extra day on 2/29 and I woke up at 6am to my alarm clock and looked over and both my babies were cuddled so peacefully in my bed, I decided my workout could wait until later, my coffee could wait, and everything else I had to do that day could WAIT! I was being presented with a gift of an extra day in the year, a day to cuddle my girls and snuggle them. I was given the gift of more TIME, so I took advantage. They may not remember it 10, 15 or 20 years from now, hell they probably won't even remember it by the end of the week. However, I surely will because years from now, days like this will most likely be nonexistent, and when I want to cuddle and snuggle with them, they either won't want to, or won't even be here.
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